There were so many things we want our children to know. The list seems endless. They have to be able to tie their shoes. They need to be able to tell time.
They need to be able to take care of themselves.
Self-care is something we don’t talk about much where children are concerned. We don’t worry as much about their mental health as we probably should. But this is the heart and soul of self-care. When a child can recognize their emotions and know how to deal with them, they are better able and better prepared when it comes to dealing with the world as they grow into adults.
How do we teach them about self-care?
Start them Right
Of course, the basics of self-care involved taking care of things such as hygiene, adequate sleep, and proper nutrition. Most of these things you’re probably already teaching your child. Making sure they understand the importance of these things is crucial. Modeling the behavior you want generally works best here. Adding in some enthusiasm to each of these processes never hurts. After all, your child should be excited to be taking care of themselves.
Go Inward
We’re not used to teaching our children how to be quiet, but it’s been proven through various studies children who meditate are more in control of their emotions and themselves. Start by encouraging them to quietly explore their thoughts. They latch on to the idea of visualization very quickly as they love using their imagination. Need help getting started? Add an exercise component. Both Tai Chi and yoga encourage us to focus our attention on mindfulness and breathing .
Get Moving
Children already love to move. Introduce them to the idea of exercise as a form of play. Teach your child exercise is a normal part of the day. Again, modeling the behavior we wish to see this crucial. Children are more apt to exercise when they see their parents exercising regularly.
Get Quiet
Everyone needs downtime now and again, especially your children. Establish a time out every day for both parent and child. This is time for reading books, daydreaming, working on quiet activities, or even just cuddling a furry friend. Take note: this is not time for devices with screens. Using iPads or phones as entertainment defeats the purpose of this exercise. You’re trying to disengage the mind and rest during this time, not get all worked up on in some app or game.
Remember, your children are looking to you to guide them in how to grow up. By teaching them these simple self-care routines you set them up for success as they grow up and go out into the world. Nothing prepares them the way a parent can.